Quality Time - even just enjoying a cup of coffee together - is one of the 5 Love Languages. How Love Speaks to Love

You may have read or heard of the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages® by Gary Chapman. Published in 1992, more than 20 million copies have been sold around the world.

What are the 5 Love Languages?

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

Why is it important to know your love language?

According to Dr. Gary Chapman’s concept of the 5 Love Languages, understanding and speaking each other’s primary love language is important for relationships because it helps:

  • Deepen Intimacy: By expressing love in a way that truly resonates with your partner, you create a sense of being seen, valued, and understood, fostering deeper emotional connections and intimacy.
  • Enhance Communication: Knowing your partner’s love language allows you to communicate love and affection effectively, reducing misunderstandings and creating an atmosphere of goodwill.
  • Build Trust: Intentionally engaging in acts of service, quality time, or other expressions that align with your partner’s language builds trust and reinforces the sense of being cherished.
  • Increase Relationship Satisfaction: When partners invest in understanding and meeting each other’s emotional needs, they tend to report greater happiness and fulfillment in the relationship.
  • Strengthen Bonds: Speaking each other’s love language promotes intentional gestures and behaviors that demonstrate love and care in meaningful ways, strengthening the bond between partners.
  • Foster Personal Growth: Learning and applying love languages encourages empathy, self-awareness, and relational maturity as you step outside your comfort zone and prioritize your partner’s needs.

My hubbie CJ and I took the  the free Love Language quiz on this website – https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language.

Turns out, we have the same primary love language — Words of Affirmation. We say, “I’m lucky,” to each other almost every day. Out of the blue, one of us will say, “I’m lucky,” and the other one will respond, “No, I’m lucky!”

My catholic friend Melanie and her fiance were required to attend pre-marital counseling with their priest. At their first session, he gave them the the 5 Love Languages book. Their homework assignment was to identify their primary love languages. Melanie’s primary love language is Receiving Gifts and her fiance’s is Acts of Service (makes sense since he is an EMT/Firefighter.)

Primary Love Languages are about how you receive and give love.

Melanie’s now husband got the message and is a great gift-giver! From little gifts like protein bars, a purse sewn by a local designer, to surprise mini-vacations, he keeps the love flowing. And Melanie shows him love by getting his truck washed, making healthy smoothies for him, or doing some of the household chores he normally does.

What’s your love language? Read the book, take the quiz, learn what your Love Language is and write your True Love List.

Always remember – you are loved! Love, Tricia

P.S. – Coffee is also my love language.