Are you the Flower or the Bee?

When I started dating after my divorce, my former very wise boss lady – Jean King – asked me, “Are you the flower or the bee?”  She explained that flowers sit patiently to attract the right bee while the bee is busy going  flower to flower in search of the right flower to land on. I knew then that I’m predominately the flower because I expect men to “pick” me. (But there were instances when I was totally the bee because I felt so drawn to someone.)

Much like humans, the relationship between flowers and bees is complex and mutualistic. Flowers compete for pollinators like bees, butterflies, birds and bats. Bees and other pollinators compete for flowers that meet their preferences for size, shape, color and fragrance.

You see now that there are many options for attracting or landing on your True Love. If you’re a flower, you may feel challenged by the idea of attracting bees – like I did. I had to get over feeling that I was too old, or not pretty enough, or too fat, whatever….it doesn’t matter because you’re absolutely perfect for the right bee (I’m proof of that!) And, if you’re a bee, you may feel like you’re on a hamster wheel of failed relationships, bad dating decisions, or you’re not good enough for a fabulous flower – whatever….it doesn’t matter because you’re perfect for the right flower.

Use your True Love List to claim you and your true love – i.e. My true love is a bee and I am his/her flower. Or, my true love is a flower and I am his/her bee. Try replacing the word “bee” with butterfly, bird, or bat and pay attention to how that feels. My true love sleeps most of the day and stays awake most of the night – he’s definitely a bat!

Always remember, you deserve true love – Tricia