You as a parent – or not
If you’re not a parent yet or even if you are, it’s wise to think this subject through when writing your True Love List. For example:
My True Love…
- definitely wants to have children
- is OK not having children
- dreams of having a large family with #(3, 5, 10) children
- wants a small family with 1 or 2 children
- is open to adopting children from foster care
- will be a loving, patient, kind, and fun father
When writing my own True Love List, I was divorced and already had two children. Here’s an example of my entries about children:
- My True Love has no children. If he does have children, they are grown and self-sufficient
- My True Love likes my children. He understands and admires my devotion to them
- My True Love enjoys spending time with me and my children
Dating taught me what I wanted and didn’t want
You may think it sounds selfish, but honestly, dating taught me I wanted all of my love’s attention for myself!
My boyfriend, Roger, had twin boys. At age 21, they still lived at home which would have been OK if they contributed to the household and Roger’s peace of mind in a good way. They got in trouble with the law, didn’t have steady jobs, and knew how to manipulate their dad. They made my life miserable because Roger complained constantly about them – until I said, “No more! Kick them out or stop complaining.”
Another boyfriend, Jack, had joint custody of his 12-year old son. Every other weekend, Jack was totally engaged with his son – umpiring his baseball games, building a hobby computer with him, watching movies, and other activities. I appreciated what a good dad he was but being the third wheel every other weekend was not for me.
My hubby CJ checks all my wants on my list. He was previously married but never had children. He has great relationships with my children and they enjoy each other’s company. My True Love List worked for me and so will yours.
Please remind yourself to love yourself!